The ‘Need’ to Hack Everything in Life

What is with the insane need these days to have to know everything in such detail? Whatever happened to leaving things to the imagination. Isn’t a bit of mystery and pretense a good thing? I just read an article on Fast Company about this new dating/messaging app called PVLL (pronounced ‘Pull’) and it has the power to:

“control, track, and analyze all text messages sent through the phone—essentially unleashing data science on our most casual communication medium. The app creates graphs that show which partner is initiating texts and who is taking longer to respond over a period of time. It also allows users to send entire text conversations to friends for their input, and recall or edit texts up to five seconds after they’ve been sent.”

I love data. I am not good at collecting and analysing data but I am fascinated by how a bunch of numbers can help you predict trends and outcomes, drawing correlations between two seemingly unrelated events. But I think this is taken it a little too far. Everything, even conversations with friends and potential partners, are being analyzed on such an intense level that I feel everything is being scripted and everything is a game. Where is the carefree-ness of having a conversation with a friend? It seems like society has made us very guarded and everything that comes out of our mouth should be screened and filtered because there is no room to be wrong. And there certainly is no room for rejection, as all things can be prevented. Our obsession in wanting to know and trying to control the outcome of everything is sucking the joy out of the pleasure of courting and the simplest things in life. Is no longer between the two people involved.

“If a girl is sending me mixed messages, I can share these 10 texts to a couple of my really good friends and say, ‘What do you guys think of this?’” [Steven Joseph] says. Another user, 30-year-old Daniel Lewis of Manhattan, just sees PVLL as one more tool in his dating arsenal. “It’s giving you information, and you can choose what you want to do with it,” he says.”

The article ends with the idea that once something has been hacked, in this case, the dating game, people will just have to move on. I guess the difference here is I don’t see dating as a game.


Dating and deaf

Thank you. Even though my first (public) post was about something similar, this writer captures exactly what it’s like for me. I could not have expressed it better myself.